My Orientation Manifesto

your Consent is more relevant 

to me and what I want and

how and if it goes beyond 

my appreciation of you as

pleasing to behold

than your gender, sex, or

identity. Your consent is

more meaningful than what

pronouns we use for each other-

and damn they best be pronouns

you've consented to in the first place,

Anyhow- or who you have or haven't

fucked or wanted to fuck before. 

Our consent is more important here

than what we call what we are doing

touching fucking loving abstaining or

any one of a number of other intimacies

that we grant each other permission for

named or unamed. Our consent is ours,

is our time together whatever we do

whatever we pretend or build- our consent

is what builds our safety, the foundations we

elaborate on in building today's "safe sex"

whatever else we add to make our intimacy safe. 

I want your consent to engage in our

tenderness, our aggression, our dances and 

fights and how we act on what intimacy we

each agree we want. The rest is stage dressing

for the best play to act in/on/with, the

endless variations of what

intimacy can look like. 

You want some word for my desire

beyond the ambiguous "queer"? My

desire is for consenting partners in

intimacy and that is as close to

specific that I can ever fucking give you. 

because that is as specific as I can get.